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Hummingbird Marriage & Family Therapy will work with you
to overcome what you see as a burden and build a value oriented life.



                                                                                                                        WHY A HUMMINGBIRD?

In nature, Hummingbirds are one of the most adaptable, swift, and resilient creatures. They possess qualities of endurance, vitality and pursuit of enjoyment in life. They are naturally courageous and able to retain a sense of independence by crafting their own paths. Hummingbirds show us how joy can be found in small things.

We can all learn from the nature of a Hummingbird: To be adaptable, to have the stamina for whatever comes across our path, as well as to honor and find joy in the small things in life, while letting go of what may burden us.

Ashley Pinkeney,LMFT

New York Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Prepare/Enrich Certified

Level 1 Trained in Internal Family Systems 

Level 1 Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy 

Taking care of your mental health is one of the most
compassionate things you can do.

Hi. I’m Ashley: Author, Thanatologist, Amateur Photographer, Self-professed Bookworm and Lifelong Traveler who is always searching for the next adventure.

In therapy, I work through a holistic approach, exploring internal and external factors that are affecting you. I’ve been described as “conversational” and “non-judgemental” by clients and strive to create a space where you can have your experiences heard. I offer practical and therapeutic advice, while integrating several clinical modalities, to help you move towards living a life in alignment with your values.

I’m a Marriage and Family Therapist . What makes me different from most therapists is that MFT’s view mental health and behaviors in the context of one’s relationships. Relationships are the currency of life; whether it be your relationship with your family, friends, coworkers or even yourself, you deserve to be relieved from unhealthy patterns and live a life inline with what you value most.

Most clients I see are high achievers, perfectionists or people pleasers who are ready to heal and grow. I serve those who are seeking change but are often fearful of what that change will entail. Sometimes these individuals just unsure of where to start . To the average eye, they appear as though they have everything together, yet, they are struggling inside.

If you desire to overcome personal burdens, repair relationships, regulate emotional challenges and change ineffective behaviors, I’m the therapist for you.

All my clinical specialties focus on supporting people through the ebbs and flow of life, building authentic connections with ourselves and others that will affirm your sense of worth in the midst of change.

Expected and even positive life transitions tend to cause some level of stress and resistance. Life transitions can be accompanied by intense feelings of fear and uncertainty or even regret. Many young adults who I work with can struggle with leaving home for the 1st time, transitioning into adult life, even questioning the foundational beliefs they have grown up in. Those who are in a later stage in their life, may be experiencing caregiving of an aged family member, career transitions or an ‘empty nest’ for the 1st time in many years. These events can cause unique responses that one may need additional support around.

I work with my clients to cultivate resilience and vitality in their lives so they are able to adjust to changes that may seem out of their control. Life transitions are normal! We may not be able to solve every problem however you can learn how to adapt and better manage whatever you find as a burden in your life. 

Relational therapy is a therapeutic approach based on the idea that mutually satisfying relationships with others are necessary for one’s emotional well-being. We as humans thrive when we have authentic connections that affirm our sense of worth and make us feel part of something greater than ourselves. The culture and societal ideals that we live in, can powerfully impact our relationships and we find ourselves disconnected from ourselves and others as well as in destructive relationship patterns.

In this area, I work with individuals to address current or long standing issues that have had a perpetual impact on their quality of life. We look at enduring patterns then strategize how to shift the way we interact and communicate in meaningful relationships to have quality enduring bonds with others.

For couples and families, the psychological health of the family can directly impact the mental health of those who are a part of the family. We will look to understand the diversity and complexity of contemporary families then learn how to strengthen the foundation of your relationship and make lasting changes to the family system.

Specialites: Premarital Counseling and Marriage Counseling . 

Ashley is Prepare/Enrich Certified. For more information, click here: What is Prepare/Enrich? 

Ashley has completed the Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and utilizes techniques from Gottman Method Couples Therapy in her work. For more information, click here: What is the Gottman Method?

All counseling is some form of grief counseling; We can mourn the loss of a dream, experience or expectation for ourselves. We can mourn a relationship or an important person in our life. The loss of a loved one can leave a cavern in our lives and heart that one can struggle to reconcile. I have been trained as a Thanatologist; an experienced professional specializing in death, dying and bereavement. I work with the bereaved to accept the reality of their loss, process the pain of the loss, adjust to a new environment and reinvest in the reality of a new life while still maintaining an enduring connection with your loved one.

Specialties: General bereavement, Spouse loss, Traumatic deaths, Loss of a child, Loss of an Infant and Traumatic birth experiences.

Disconnections can come in many forms of our lives. Beliefs about food, weight, and overall body/self-image can cause you to be disconnected from what’s important to you.

While working with my clients I utilize an integrative care model. This model allows me to join with a team with other providers, such as dietitians, doctors, and other clinical providers to support you safely as you work to manage your illness, because recovery doesn’t happen alone. In this therapeutic process, we will work on developing a healthy relationship with food, while shifting long-standing beliefs and ideals that impact your relationship with yourself and the world around you. The ability to feel connected and have a real sense of self-worth and agency in our lives allows us to have clarity about not just who we are as a person but who we want to be.

Specialties: Emotional Eating and Compulsive Overeating, Anorexia, Bulimia, Binge Eating Disorder and ARFID. Psychoeducation and family counseling.

Internal Family Systems is a non- pathologizing, transformative and evidence-based psychotherapy that helps people connect to the wisdom of the mind and body to understand then heal their wounded inner Parts. 

IFS believes in the multiplicity of the mind – We all have a Self that has inherent wisdom and protective Parts of ourselves that have an intended purpose. Outside constraints can force the Parts out of their intended purpose which can cause them to operate in extreme ways. 

Traditional psychotherapy would see these extremes as psychiatric symptoms or diagnoses. IFS sees these extremes as the Parts desire to be heard. IFS helps us understand why our Parts act the way they do and allow our Self to get into relationship with the Parts so we can make choices for ourselves to help the Part reconnect with its intended role.

We believe that “All Parts are welcome” and the ultimate goals in Internal Family Systems therapy is to restore trust in Self and achieve balance, harmony and wholeness both internally and with the outer world.

Ashley is Level 1 trained in Internal Family Systems from the Internal Family Systems Institute. For more information, visit the IFS Institute website.


Body Image

Bias and Discrimination

Communication Problems


Emotional Regulation

Family of Origin Issues


Multicultural Concerns

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Postpartum Depression Anxiety

Relationship Issues

Self – Esteem


Woman’s Issues

Young Adult Issues

If you are finding yourself stuck in patterns of unfulfilling behaviors or feeling like you are living a life below what you value,  we can help you build self awareness, refine your personal belief system and learn how your history, family and culture have impacted you. 

We can also work with managing long term mental health struggles that you may have been experiencing for years.

For couples, we can look at multiple dimensions in life that may be impacting the quality of your relationship. I work with couples at all stages of their relationship; dating, engaged and married. We can explore how to strengthen the foundation of your relationship as well as build enduring bonds. 

We also look at ways to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection within the partnership and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

The psychological health of the family can directly impact the mental health of those who are a part of the family. 

Family Therapy looks to understand the diversity and complexity of contemporary families while helping them exert lasting changes to the family system. In this counseling setting, we can address current or long standing issues that have had a perpetual impact on mature families.

Stock photos from Nappy.co  // Background photos by Ashley Pinkeney // Ashley’s photo by Trish Baier of Trish’s Take.